don’t like difficult things, do we? Not
difficult people, places, chores or recipes.
We love things to be easy, right?
Is there higher praise for a family get together than the phrase “It was
easy”? Ditto for a shopping trip, good
meal or any kind of task we had been dreading.
We believe that “easy” makes us happy and “difficult” makes us
unhappy. Have a difficult time finding a
parking space and you probably get a little tweaked. Having to wait in a long line behind people
who still insist on paying by check will undoubtedly make you exasperated. Getting halfway through a complicated recipe
only to realize you don’t have enough of this or added too much of that can
ruin your whole day. Why do things have
to be so difficult? If only life were easier,
we could all be happy, right? But hold
that thought for just a minute…
But that temporary high is not a platform to build on. It is transient; it comes and goes with no residual gain. The difficulties I have faced in my life, however…here is where I learned I am a warrior. Here is where I learned to trust myself. Here is where I realized the true meaning of friendship. Here is the solid ground upon which I can build a life. When life challenges you, you have been given a great opportunity to grow. The things you learn in any dark parts of your journey will ultimately be the most valuable, not only to yourself but also to the people whose lives you touch. Pain is inevitable in this world, but as we make our way through it, we learn to survive; and as we survive we teach others about endurance. We begin to understand that the emotional hoops we jump through in our relationships are so often just an exercise in guilt or just plain confusion; we learn to stand our ground and not engage in melodrama. Being present is the most important gift we can give to each other. And although it is in many ways more difficult than running around like a chicken without a head, it is also much more rewarding.